Some days, life reminds me of the movie The Backup Plan when they’re talking on the playground about parenting:  It’s “awful, awful, awful, awful…and then something incredible happens.  I feel like I’m drowning, gasping…and then a small moment happens that’s so magical, so life-affirming that it makes it all worthwhile.”

Ever have days like that?  Weeks?  Months?  We all do.  That’s life in a nutshell, although hopefully with a few less awfuls in there and a few more incredible and magical and life-affirming moments.

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“…so magical…” from The Backup Plan

Lately, there are some extremely awful things going on in the world.   Whether your “lately” is the last month or the last couple of years, things are changing, and they are not changing for the better.  Some things are good, some things are better than they used to be, but many things are kind of awful and it can take a lot of effort to deal with the negative.

Terrorists are doing their terrorism.  They’re torturing, killing, kidnapping, beheading.  They’re blowing people up, shooting them, taking credit for it, and then they take credit for it when they didn’t even do it.  Why?  Because terrorism, although always evil, isn’t always violence; very often it is psychological.

They don’t thrive solely on the violence, they thrive on the fear behind the violence, the fear behind the threat of violence.

They want us to do part of their jobs for them and attack each other because we’re so paranoid about what could happen, what might be done, what somebody maybe will say or do.  They want us to doubt our own decisions.

They want us to hate.

Well, I say forget them.  Do we need to be vigilant?  Absolutely, without a doubt.  And if you don’t believe the terrorists will strike again somewhere in the world, including the United States of America, in the near future, you are ignorant.  We need to pay attention and be alert always and everywhere.

But we don’t need to do it out of fear, we need to do it out of caution.  We don’t need to hate, even though after what they’ve done and continue to do, hate is a pretty easy emotion to evoke…which is why it’s even more important that we love.  We need to remember what love means.  It means taking care of others, putting others first, praying for others, doing for others.

1 John 4:18 ~ “There is no fear in love.  But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment.”

Love and hate-hindsight

Hindsight is a great teacher.  It shows us a reaction to a particular action, an outcome to an event.  It shows us what could have happened or not happened; and how good or bad a job we did in how we reacted to it.  However, hindsight, by its very nature, is not enough…by the time we have it, it’s too late.  What was going to happen, already happened.

We are not blessed with the knowledge of foresight, so we have to pay attention to our hindsight.  We must learn our lessons from what was, so that what is will birth a great what will be.  And we must do it with love.

Romans 12:9 ~ “Love must be sincere.  Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.”


Becky is a single mom and a reluctant disciple, called to share her story with others in her own unconventional way.  She knows God will equip her for her journey, and does her best to trust in His plan for that journey, and not to judge others on their journeys – unless the waist of their pants is at their butt cheeks; then she thinks they should pull those puppies up.  Or if somebody says she eats too much chocolate; then she just can’t be friends with them anymore.  But she will pray for them.  Join her to discover how your plans and God’s plans come together in this life of groovy trails.