What is fashion?  Is it a tank top and jeans?  A scarf you slip around your neck to match the first sweater you grab from the closet?  A cerulean (that’s blue) jacket that “filtered down through the department stores and then trickled on down into some tragic Casual Corner” where you picked it “from a pile of stuff”, as Miranda Priestley would say, dripping with dissent?


The truth is fashion is a ginormous industry, it’s global.  Everyone wears something.  It’s like the article says in Esquire that I was reading (yes, I read Esquire):  “What we wear is who we are”.  What we wear reflects how we feel, what we think, what we want to convey to others, and it depends heavily on our mood or an event of the day.

Or just that we don’t want to walk out the door naked.  Whichever incentive floats your boat.

And if that killer cerulean jacket is so big that it flops down over our fingers, we won’t look killer, we’ll look, well, floppy.

We choose clothes that fit us properly, clothes that are the right size for us, even if the tag says that size is five numbers less than what it used to say, like we talked about as vanity sizing.


What is faith?  Hebrews 11:1 says it’s “confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.”  I mentioned before that with faith, sometimes you just have to believe, even if you don’t see.

Believe that a problem is being worked out, that a bad situation is changing to a good one, that a job offer will pan out, that a relationship will work out (or that it won’t, but whichever way it goes, that is the best way!), that we’ll get people running our government who will actually do a good job.

It could happen.

Vanity Faithing

Just like shrinking tag sizes, over the years people’s faith has shrunk.  It’s understandable; faith is a challenge sometimes.  Churches are caving to peer pressure, as well.  People claiming to have faith are just not representing well.  Either theirs has decreased and they’re trying to fake it, or they are giving in to the pressure of the world to “tell people what they want to hear” just to get bodies into their buildings.

But there is a danger when you tell somebody what they want to hear and it’s not the truth.  First, it’s a lie.  (Duh)  Second, it doesn’t help anybody when the truth wins out, which it eventually does, and somebody suffered needlessly instead of being able to deal with the truth to begin with.

“For the time will come when people will not put up with sound doctrine.  Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear.  They will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths.” ~ 2 Tim 4:3-4

Nope.  Not good.

When your kid wants to touch the hot stove, do you tell them sure, go ahead, it’ll be ok?  NO.  Because that’s a lie!  And you’ll end up with a hospital bill and probably the child protection agency breathing down your back.  You tell the truth – that it will burn, don’t do it.

The Doubt Fix

At times, I doubt.  There, I said it.  I doubt that things will work out, that a friend will be healed, that a situation will get better, that I have a clue what direction I’m going in life.

When doubt hits me, I pray, but I also turn to others who are stronger in their faith than I might be at that moment.  Sometimes we just need that extra support and reassurance.  I know I can rely on those I turn to because I’ve done it before and I know where to turn.

What about someone who doesn’t have that support system?  Someone who doesn’t know where to turn?  Someone who might have tried before and gone to a friend or even a pastor and been told…gasp…just what they wanted to hear but it wasn’t the truth?

It has happened.

What should that person do?  Give up?  NO.  Find another support.  Find another pastor.  Keep looking until your gut tells you you’re okay there.  Because the gut knows…(pssst…your gut is the Holy Spirit).

One Size Does Not Fit All

What if the way one person feels and expresses their faith is not the same as someone else’s?  Does that make one of them wrong?


One faith is not more right than another.  One way of exercising that faith is not more right than another (except for the terrorists who are just warped and using faith as an excuse for barbarity).  Some may be very talkative about their faith, some might be a little quieter about it.  Some may sit in the front row at church and some may sit in the back.  And all of that is okay!  One size does not fit all, no matter what the tag says.  What is right for you is your normal.

Think about it the way Tim Hawkins explains it and remember:  no matter what your size, no matter what your faith, no matter what your faith level…it doesn’t matter.  Just have some, it’s your faith.  Your normal.  And that’s perfect for you.  That’s your touchdown.  (Watch the video…and laugh.)

Becky is a single mom navigating her own groovy trails.  She considers herself a “real” Christian…which means she believes in Jesus Christ, she knows she is imperfect just like everybody else on the planet (only God is perfect), and she tries not to judge others.  Unless the waist of their pants is at their butt cheeks.  Then she thinks they should pull those puppies up.  Join her to discover how your plans and God’s plans come together in this life full of Groovy Trails!